孩子写给父母的“十诫”

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原文刊载于腾讯教育

收拾东西，翻出女儿有一年暑假参加一个Vacation Bible School时候拿回家的一个“十诫”，读来很有启发，有很多方面我都没有做到，应该好好学习。我还翻译了出来，供其他家长借鉴：

A Child’s Ten Commandments to Parents

父母十诫

1. My hands are small; please don’t expect perfection whenever I make my bed, draw a picture or throw a ball. My legs are short; please slow down so that I can keep up with you.

我的手还小，我铺床、画画、扔球的时候，请您不要求全责备。我的腿比您短，请您走慢些，好让我能跟上。

2. My eyes have not seen the world as yours have; please let me explore safely; don’t restrict me unnecessarily.

我还没有像您一样见多识广，在安全的前提下，请让我去去大胆探索，不要到处限制。

3. Housework and money will always be there. I’m only little for such a short time-please take the time to explain things to me about this wonderful world and do so willingly.

家务活是做不完的，钱是挣不完的，而我的童年这么短暂，能否花点时间和我在一起，跟我讲述这个世界的奥妙。

4. My feelings are tender, please be sensitive. Don’t nag me all day long. (You wouldn’t want to be nagged for your inquisitiveness). Treat me as you would like to be treated.

我的感情十分稚嫩，请对我的需要保持敏感，不要成天跟我数落唠叨。（我也不会对您的再三问询感到厌烦。）己所不欲，勿施于人。

5. I am a special gift from God; please treasure me as my Creator intended you to do, holding me accountable for my actions, giving me guidelines to live by and disciplining me in a loving manner.

我是上帝赐给您的特别礼物，请像造物主所希望的那样，好好珍惜我，帮助我对我的行为负责，教我如何做人，我做错事情的时候，带着爱心管教我。

6. I need your encouragement to grow. Please go easy on the criticism; you can criticize the things I do without criticizing me.

我需要您的鼓励。批评我的时候，请注意您的方式。您批评的时候，可以对事不对人。

7. Please give me the freedom to make decisions concerning myself. Permit me to fail, so that I can learn from my own mistakes. Then someday I will be prepared to make the kind of decisions life will require of me.

请允许我为自己做主。允许我犯错误，好让我能从自己的错误中得到学习，这样将来有一天，我就可以为自己的生活做出决定。

8. Please don’t do things over for me. Somehow that makes me feel that my efforts didn’t quite measure to your expectations. I know it’s hard, but please don’t try to compare me to my brother or sister or other kids.

不要事事替我代劳。要是您这样的话，我会觉得您看不上我所做的一切。我知道这很难，可是请不要拿我跟我的哥哥姐姐或其他小孩去比。

9. Please don’t be afraid to leave for a weekend together. Kids need a vacation from parents, just as parents need vacations from kids. Besides it’s a great way to show us kids that your marriage is very special.

如果有需要，你们二位可以一起去找个别的地方度周末。父母可以给孩子放假，孩子也可以给父母放假。你们一起度假，也可以让我们看到你们的婚姻何等宝贵。

10. Please set a good example for me to follow in all the ways of life. I enjoy watching the things you do and want to do them just like you do.

在生活的各个方面，都给我树立榜样。我喜欢看着您的一言一行，我会处处模仿。

shellylee_sc

{:soso_e179:}，看到“十诫”这个词眼，就一下想到来源《圣经》。上帝的智慧，真是极大极丰盛的！

zdyzdy

了解到孩子的想法，很重要